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Pretty much just my shower thoughts 🚿🧠 But I do other things like... Developer Advocate at Lightning Labs | Organizer of San Juan Bitdevs | Founder of Velas Commerce
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hmichellerose 2 months ago
“Many are still confusing masculinity with the oppression of others, meaning that for men to rise higher, others must fall to their previous levels. We really need to build a stronger sense of self-worth and value that doesn’t change based on the station of others.” - Scott Galloway
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hmichellerose 2 months ago
“If you go into a morgue and there are 5 people who died by suicide, 4 of them are men. We have a homeless and an opiate problem but what we really have is a male homeless and male opiate problem. Men are three times a likely to be addicted, three times as likely to be homeless, twelve times as likely to be incarcerated. The far right really recognized the problem and started talking about needing to lift young men up. The problem is the remedy from the far right. Their suggestion was the we return to the 50’s where women and non-whites has less opportunity. That’s not the answer. And they began conflating masculinity with coarseness and cruelty. At the same time, the left hasn’t been that helpful because their advice when talking about the struggles of you men is to say… you are the problem. We can still address the problems facing women. But we can also recognize that young men are really struggling and that our country isn’t gonna continue to flourish and women aren’t going to continue to ascend if men are flailing.” - Scott Galloway
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hmichellerose 2 months ago
It’s not all men, it’s only about 5-8%. But when a woman meets a new man, she has no way to tell if he’s in that 5-8% or not. It’s like gun safety. When you encounter a gun, treat it as if it's loaded until you can verify that it's not.
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hmichellerose 2 months ago
I'll bet you ~90% of the women you know have a story about being sexually assaulted, and ~60% of the men you know have a story about doing some "gay" shit. And if you don't know these stories, it's because they don't trust you enough to tell you about them.
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hmichellerose 2 months ago
People out here proudly posting photos of themselves with politicians. ...I would pay money to prevent the posting of a photo of me with a politician.
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hmichellerose 2 months ago
I wish more people understood that appeasement is a survival strategy. image
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hmichellerose 2 months ago
It’s the old two steps forward one step back with the mental health. One thing that’s super annoying about having done so much work and study into psychology and the workings of my own mind, is that sometimes I’ll hit a rough patch and know exactly what’s happening. I know what sort of error in thinking I’m experiencing, I know where it comes from, I know all sort of theories about it… and yet I can’t stop. It’s like watching a slow moving train wreck happening inside your own head. Good times. But then sometimes things do get better. Just now I was hit with a wave of shamexiety… you know, that lovely shame fueled anxiety! Ahh religious upbringings. And when it hits you, it’s just so damn heavy. And it felt really heavy. And my prefrontal cortex knows that it’s not mine to carry, and I was thinking, “I just want to put this down”… and then I did. And I felt better! I came back 5 mins later. But that was the first time I’ve been able to do that!
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hmichellerose 2 months ago
I need somewhere to document my predictions so I can check my accuracy. What do you think would work? Just a Google doc + some Google calendar events set like 2 years in the future?
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hmichellerose 2 months ago
People love socialism because it is sold as community care and support. A thing we are very much lacking in the modern world. If we want to dissuade them from this, we have to give them a better, more economically sound, path to community care and support.
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hmichellerose 2 months ago
A Libertarian's Guide to Understanding the Popularity of Socialism How could people support such an obviously bad idea? It’s because they are jealous. Maybe they just love to play victim! Or they are lazy and want to live off others. It’s a social mania. Or perhaps, just plain stupidity. But here we are, after all these years of yelling at people about philosophy and economic policy, and yet the popularity of socialism still seems to be growing! How? What on earth is happening here? All the lectures will never work, because what we are doing is fighting against human nature. …don’t panic! I’m not a communist, I’ll explain. First we need to back up a bit and have a look at human nature and where our instincts come from. If you are from the States, you probably were not taught much about humanities “pre history”. Most of what we are taught about humanity is from the past few thousand years. That makes some sense as we have much more of an idea about what was happening then. However, as best we can currently tell, humanity is roughly 250,000 years old. So that leaves quite a lot of time to form instincts prior to those first Mesopetamian farmers ~10,000 years ago. Agriculture has existed for only about 4-5% of our existence, and that’s just for people with genetic roots in the Middle East, it took thousands of years to spread around the globe. And the world we live in now, with our daily commutes, and single family homes, and our mega cities, is quite an anomaly in our history. We don’t have the instincts for it. Okay, so what do we have the instincts for? And here we are doing some guess work as we don’t have any documentary footage from the first ~249,870 years of our existence. It’s really fascinating to read the studies on the few hunter - gatherer tribes that still exist today, or that did exist long enough for us to study them. We can make a pretty decent guess that how these people live, is roughly how all of humanity lived for the vast majority of our time on planet Earth. This is especially true when we find the same patterns in different hunter - gatherer bands on opposite sides of the world. That gives us a pretty clear indication of what is “natural” to humans. Note: I am not at all suggesting that anyone return to this life. You are free to run off into the woods with your buddies if you like, but I have no intention of returning or advocating for a return to this type of life. I am suggesting here that we can learn quite a lot from looking at these studies, and that will help us continue to grow. It pains me to skip all of the fascinating learnings from these studies, but out of deep respect for your time I’ll restrain myself and focus on just one. For at least 95% of our history, we lived in groups of about 100-150 people. Have you heard of Dunbar’s number? British anthropologist and evolutionary psychologist Robin Dunbar was studying the relationship between brain size and social group size in primates and humans. Long story short, after lots of study, he concluded that the human brain can maintain stable social relationships with about 150 people max. He first proposed this theory in the 90’s and it seems to be standing the test of time. Are you starting to see how this applies to economics? No? Well I’ll explain, but first one more mind f*ck on human nature. Again, if you are from the States you’ve probably been taught, or just absorbed from the culture, a few ideas and values about human nature that just aren't true. Us Americans tend to be very into the “rugged individualism”, and I’m still a bit of a fan of this. I’m all in on individuality, personal autonomy, etc. …But, that’s not the human survival adaptation. The human survival adaptation is group formation and co-operation. One tiger vs one human, the human is lunch. One tiger vs 10 humans, the tiger is lunch. We are not bigger, we are not faster or stronger, what we are is cooperative and we come in groups… and we win! We now sit at the top of that food chain. But we know deep in our bones that we are unlikely to survive and can not thrive without our tribe… without our community. This one is such a deep survival instinct that we tend to panic when we feel that we might lose our tribe. I call this “Exclusion Panic”, and it is unfortunately a heavily abused human instinct. When we get any hint of being ostracized, of being excluded from the group, we fall into a survival panic and politicians and manipulators of all varieties know this, and use it as a tool of control. It’s another fascinating topic, but for our purposes here, we need to understand that we have a deeply rooted need for our tribe, for those ~150 people in our community. And now back to economics! And you dear reader know a thing or two about economics. I don’t need to break out the data, and the charts, and all the theories to explain to you why socialism or communism doesn’t work. We know that these economic policies lead to shortages, dependance, starvation, just a massive humanitarian disaster. If this is true, if we can prove this so easily with all the case studies, with that picture of North and South Korea from space! Then why on Earth are there so many people who still long for socialism? Those socialism supporters might not want to swallow the hard pill of data, but here is your hard pill to swallow… humans are communists. For ~240,000 years we lived in small bands of people practicing communism. Hunter - gatherers don’t use money, they have no need for that. They can maintain a direct relationship with everyone in the tribe. Living in that lifestyle you don’t need to pay Alice for her newly weaved basket, you just remember that you owe her some berries next week. You happily share that bit of buffalo leg with Bob knowing that he’s got you next time he has a big kill. On and on. This is where our instincts still are. The issue isn’t that communism doesn’t work, the issue is that communism doesn’t scale beyond Dunbar’s number. Okay, so if we can accept that, we are still left with the same issue. Now that we all live in these massive societies way outside Dunbar’s number, socialist/communist policies still don’t work! Yes, but the way in which we have a habit of explaining “capitalism” or free markets triggers everyone else's “Exclusion Panic”. So we have two issues here. Humans long for community, and want to support sharing in their community, and when we try to explain why that won’t work, we trigger their “Exclusion Panic”. In short, we’re doing it all wrong. Yelling at people about data will never work when this is what we are up against. So, if you haven’t decided that I’m a dirty hippie communist and you’re still reading this, I’ll stop talking about problems and offer a very simple solution. We gotta change how we talk about this. When we sell capitalism with words and phrases like “competition”, “profit motive”, “rugged individualism”, or “survival of the fittest”, etc, we trigger fears of isolation. When we communicate with words used to signal distance and friction with our fellow humans rather than connection to them and care for them, we trigger concerns for well being. ...valid concerns. If we want to counter the rise of socialism, we need a marketing overhaul. We must speak to humanity’s true survival strategy—cooperation—and honor it in our language. We need to acknowledge our intense longing for community and give people an economically sound path to greater community support. People are rejecting an “every man for himself” world, and socialism is their current tool of rejection. If we believe free markets serve communities better, we have to show it with how we talk. Specific phrases or scripts that would be more effective here would require their own write up. But once you accept the reality of humanity, and we hold that as our base, then how we communicate on these topics will naturally evolve. We are all starved of connection and community in the modern world. While it might be too late for the word "capitalism" we can help people to understand that “free markets” are actually what bring us together and are at the core of cooperative communities.
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hmichellerose 3 months ago
“Hard times” do not make for strong people. Not strong women or strong men. “Hard times” make for damaged people that are in need of healing. What’s more, when someone is damaged and does not receive understanding and support from their community, if the feedback they get is more like “walk it off” and less like “I’m here to help”, that damage is likely to continue to grow and put them in an early grave. We know this from quite a lot of studies, but let’s look at two of those. Back in 1998 Dr Felliti gave a questionnaire to thousands of medical patients of all varieties in San Diego that asked the patient two sets of questions. The first was had they experienced any of a set of ‘hard times’ as a child, things like physical abuse, sexual assault, neglect, etc. (later becoming the “ACE score”) And the second asked if they had or were suffering as an adult from things like obesity, addiction, depression, etc. The correlation was so dramatic that they had to double check the results. These ‘hard times’, especially when there were multiple ‘hard times’, put these patients at a 1100% increased risk of these negative health outcomes. What’s more, they expanded the study. When these patents would come in for their next visit the doctors were given a script that went like “I see here on your chart that you experienced [the hard time they mentioned]. I’m so sorry to hear that happened to you. That never should have happened to you. Would you like to talk about it?” About 60% of people did want to talk about it and on average those conversations lasted 5 mins. And for those people that did talk about it, just those 5 mins led to a significant fall in depression and anxiety. And those that were randomly assigned to a therapist to talk about it further, had an even bigger decrease in depression and anxiety. In conclusion, hard times fuck you up, and community support heals. https://www.ajpmonline.org/article/s0749-3797(98)00017-8/pdf And let’s do one more along those lines. Of all the things you can do to increase both your life span and health span, eating well, sleeping well, working out, etc. What do you think has the biggest impact? A supportive community. The Harvard Study of Adult Development or “Grant Study” started tracking 724 men in 1938(back before women were included in medical research) and out of the 10–20 predictors used, the most impactful was community. It was the quality of relationships, and very importantly, not just relationships with immediate family, but relationships with those outside the immediate family… community. https://www.adultdevelopmentstudy.org/ ‘Hard times’ damage people. And unacknowledged hard times, and going through hard times without an understanding and supportive community to help you, not only fucks you up, it puts you in an early grave. “Hard times” ≠ strong people.
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hmichellerose 3 months ago
Often the difference between a difficult experience and a traumatic experience is the level of support you have in dealing with it. If someone is assaulted and their community rushes to support them, helps them heal, seeks justice, etc. that might still cause some trauma, but much less so than if they didn't have that support. When someone is assaulted and they are blamed for their own assault. When those around them try to hide what happened, or tell them it was their fault. That then isn't just a traumatic experience, it's likely to cause debilitating mental health issues. That can, in a fairly clear way, kill someone.
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hmichellerose 3 months ago
Me and one of my kids were having a chat about how our lives would be different if we had been born male rather than female. And she said some rather sad things. She's like "I couldn't listen to the music that I do. I couldn't paint my finger nails..." etc. It's so fucked up that we shame men out of just enjoying their lives. Dudes don't get to go to the nail salon, listen to fun pop music, put on dramatic eye liner, wear pretty clothes, dance with enthusiasm, drink a fancy fruity drink, on and on. We intensely shame them out of enjoying the simple pleasures of life. That's so sad. Don't be one of those people!