Why do so many women have the hots for Pedro Pascal? Well, since you asked, I’ll type up a big long explanation for you! 😉 First: I recently read this book called Come As You Are. It’s about human sexuality and I highly recommend it. The book describes libido not as one thing, but as having two components, the gas and the breaks. I think women tend to have more sensitive breaks, this being mostly for biological reason. Women suffer the consequences of sex, pregnancy. Having sensitive breaks is a necessary survival skill. But it’s a burden, and it sucks. Now we have quality female controlled birth control, but still in the modern world there are SO many things that hit the breaks. For example, men that give lectures on how women need to “submit” to them. Men that think “protection” = control. Men who praise other men who say “your body my choice”. All of that stuff hits the breaks, hard. And it’s so prevalent that you have be constantly on guard for it. Constantly hitting the breaks. Pedro Pascal does none of the things that hit the breaks. And sure he’s a good looking, fit dude. But he’s not THAT good looking, what he is, is safe. I don’t know the dude, I have no idea what he’s actually like, but I know how he presents, or is presented. He presents as someone who would actually protect. He presents as someone you could go to if you had been assaulted or harassed and he would believe you, and help you. He presents as someone who would respect, with out questions, your clearly stated boundaries… the first time you stated them! Wow, just wow. (And how sad that is so rare) So in short, Pedro hit’s the brakes so very, very little that looking at him is like a car rolling down hill, going faster and faster as there are no brakes to slow the roll.

Be careful how others tell you to interpret data. One data point is very easily misrepresented or used to manipulate. Example: The red pill talking point that uses this data point, “70% of divorces are initiated by women”. Which seems to be fairly accurate… but how do they interpret that? The red pill crew interprets that as women are more likely to leave than men are, or a woman will always leave for a richer man whenever she can, hypergamy, etc. But does that data support that view point? Maybe, maybe not. I was scrolling YouTube the other day and ran across a clip form a divorce lawyer who had a very different take. He said that it’s very common for him to run across a situation where a woman comes to him and explains that she doesn’t want a divorce, she wants to fix her marriage, but her husband has left, and he is no longer supporting the kids/household. He has to explain to her that she has to file for divorce before a judge will issue an order requiring her husband to pay child support, etc. And so she reluctantly files for divorce as that is really the only option available to her. And he believes the prevalence of this scenario is how we get that data point. Now I haven’t researched this salutation, but what I do know is that you can take the same data point and use it to reach two very different conclusions. Be careful how others tell you to interpret data.

Problem: I don't know how to relax. I know how to work. I know how to parent. I know how to maintain my home. I know how to party with my friends... but I don't think I know how to relax. How do you relax?

I feel like I speak Spanish at about the same level as Gloria from Modern Family speaks English... but I'm not nearly that hot, so it's not as cute when I forget words.

*person But you dramatically reduce the odds of this happening if you engage in mockery.

Y'all, I attended a dinner party... en español! The first hour I did pretty good. I followed all the conversation, I said things, I even told a joke and people laughed! But then it started to deteriorate. A few hours in and I was running on a combo ~50% comprehension, body language, and tone of voice. And I went home exhausted.

Exclusion panic. Are you aware of yours? Are you managing it? The human survival strategy is group formation. One tiger vs one human, the human is lunch. One tiger vs 10 humans, the tiger is lunch. We are unlikely to survive and can not thrive without our tribe. We know this deep in our bones. When we get any hint of being ostracized, of being excluded from the group, we fall into a survival panic. When this survival instinct kicks in we will do some wild shit. We will compromise our values to adhere to the group. We will get swept up in the mania of the group and our judgment will become clouded. When physically in the group we will even engage in violence (rioting after sports games, etc.) Politicians and manipulators of all varieties know this, and use it as a tool of control. Exclusion panic is the state you want someone in when you want to control them. Humans are hopelessly social creatures. You are too. You can’t escape it. But what you can do is know it, and consciously manage it. Do you know what exclusion panic feels like? Maybe that sinking feeling in your gut? You’ve probably experienced a lot of it over the past ~6 years. Get familiar with it. Make a plan for how to deal with it.

Star Trek TNG really did ruin me. Captain Picard quickly occupied the “leader” category in my head as a kid, and ever since I’ve been subconsciously comparing all “authority figures”, all leaders, all elders, to this guy… Can you imagine my chronic disappointment???

Over the years me and Erik have done a lot of couples costumes! But I think I’m noticing a trend… Erik seems to take well to playing characters that are loud, and a bit over the top. And I take well to playing characters that just stand there and judge you 😑😆

Hoy soy las estrellas en el cielo. ¿Y tú?

Vibe coding: Front end - great idea!👍 Back end - horrible idea!😬

Just your periodic reminder that mothers have always been working mothers.

The single family home, breadwinner + stay at home parent, is a wild anomaly in human history.

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I am forever indebted to Satoshi, but y’all we have to stop doing these Satoshi based appeals to authority. Satoshi was a fallible human, what they said a decade ago is interesting but can't be our guiding principle. Satoshi is gone. We are all Satoshi now.

I'm completely obsessed with Dunbar's number! How many of the issues we currently face are simply because we all have instincts for living in small packs of 100-200 people, but we now live in metropolises??? (spoiler: a lot!)