I'm very worried about my ex.
We cancelled our rental contract and have to be out by end of November. She hasn’t yet signed her new rental contract and instead spends a lot of time on researching which couch she’s going to buy for her new place. And she’s definitely not shallow when it comes to these things, making me feel like there’s something else stopping her from really moving on. She hasn’t yet packed a single box of her stuff.
I’ll be moving out in about 3 weeks and she’ll be all alone in a 120sqm flat with no one to say hi to her when she’s back from work and no cats to take care of after having spent the last 6 years of our lives under these conditions. And she geniunely loves these critters. She’s also prone to SAD during autum/winter months.
She doesn’t seem to realize that I’ll be living in a different state soon and that some tasks regarding the old flat will have to be taken care of by her when I’m no longer here because I can only come over during weekends. In exchange I’ve been taking care of clearing out our stuff, welcoming potential new renters who want to inspect the flat, organizing the final cleanup and handover of the old flat, taking things to the trash, clearing out the cellar, cancelling constracts and basically everything else that needs to happen when moving to a home.
The last times I even mentioned her rental contract she was evasive and it seemed like she felt as if I was pointing out failures of her which just increased the pressure she was already under, which was never my intention.
I’m genuinely worried about her and it seems there’s no way around having a talk with her about all this later today. One of the reasons we didn’t work out was that we had different approaches to handling emotional conflicts so this is likely to cause some issues.
I know she’ll be able to handle all this but it’ll be unnecessarily stressful for the both of us. I’d hate if we went our seperate ways in anger and frustration.
